Welcome to This Journey of Love

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  • Welcome to my world!
    I hope you’ll stay.
    Since Father’s love changed me
    I have something to say.
  • The One who loves me,
    See, He also loves you
    The things He’s done for me
    He will do for you, too.
  • So come with me
    As I follow the Lamb
    Wherever He goes.
    My life’s in His hand.
  • I trust Him and follow Him
    No matter the cost.
    Without His great love for me
    I would be lost.
  • The words that you find here
    I hope will breathe life.
    In each day and moment
    You’ll find His delight.
  • For surely His love for you
    Is greater than you know.
    Come with me now
    To His presence we’ll go.
    P.M.D.

Changed By Love and Still Changing

York, Pennsylvania 2011

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Katy, Texas 2012

Mary Jo Peckham Park

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Katy, TX 2013 Mary Jo Peckham Park

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Katy, TX Honey Farm, 2014

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Katy, TX Honey Farm, 2015

Katy, TX – MKT Railroad Park Caboose and Depot, 2017

Katy, TX – Heritage Park, 2020

Hi, I’m Penney Douglas. I have been married to my precious husband for 36 years. We have been exceedingly and abundantly blessed with 10 children. They all belong to me and my husband. And to think that I was afraid I would never get married! I got a late start (married at 25 and first child at 27), but I guess late bloomers can blossom profusely once they get started.
I blog for several reasons. I like to keep a record of what we’re doing in our homeschooling and share ideas for other homeschoolers or moms who like to work and play with their kids. I try to encourage families to keep Christ first in their homes so they can be all that they were made to be. I want to help others to draw closer to God. I hope to glorify God and give Him praise for all that He does for us.
I am constantly learning, changing and growing. Sometimes I feel like a beginner even though I’ve been a Christian since I was 4 years old and I’ve been homeschooling for about 27 years. And I’ve been living for __ years (long enough!).
But the Lord has been faithful to keep me and my family on an upward climb drawing nearer to Him in spite of our weaknesses and mistakes.
He has led us on a crooked path across the United States and back and then some. (From Ohio to Kansas City to Arizona to Colorado, back to Kansas City to Illinois to Pennsylvania and now to Texas!) We are still looking for that place to call home. We hope to find it before the oldest chicks are ready to fly from the nest! But our desire is that they land somewhere near us even when that time comes.
We are believing God for miracles of provision. We have already seen many. We suffered the loss of our home 19 years ago. Now we live in a different state, and my husband is making more money than ever before. But the money is beside the point. What God did in each of our hearts, convincing us of His reality and His love for us, is worth more than all of the houses or money in the world. But now He has enabled us to help others in need, and we are grateful for the opportunity to bless others.
Our children are truly gifts from God. They learn from us and teach us so much. I would never have known even a fraction of how much God loves me if I had never had the opportunity to be a mother to my precious children. They are teaching me even more as they grow in wisdom and understanding and we share together what the Lord is teaching us.
Family was God’s idea. Marriage was His idea. God has good ideas. His ideas work.
He wants our families to be training grounds for children (and adults) to learn His ways and right ways of relating to God and to people. We learn how to die to ourselves when others are dependent on us, and when we have to learn to get along with the people around us in order to experience peace and harmony. The rough edges are rubbed off as we care enough to be honest with each other and humble ourselves to receive correction even from those younger than ourselves.
God created us because He wanted a family. That’s more than a trite saying. He created us in His image so that He could have sons and daughters that would look like Him, act like Him and love Him. He wanted to be a father.
He created you so He could love you. Receive His love for you. Let Him be your Daddy.

Helping Your Homeschool Children Become Entrepreneurs

 

Helping Your Homeschool Children Become Entrepreneurs

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As homeschool moms, we have a beautiful opportunity.

We get to do more than teach our children reading, writing, and math. We get to help them discover how God made them. We get to nurture their gifts, strengthen their confidence, and expose them to ideas that may one day grow into a business, a calling, or even a lifelong career.

Some children are natural builders. Some love to organize. Some are creative. Some are good with people. Some are problem solvers. Some notice needs that other people overlook.

That means entrepreneurship does not have to start with a formal business plan or a big investment.

It can start much smaller than that.

It can start with observation.

It can start with interest.

It can start with letting your child try things, serve people, learn from others, and discover what they enjoy doing.

Expose Them to Different Kinds of Businesses

One of the best things we can do is simply let our children see how different businesses work.

Take them with you when you can. Talk about what people do for a living. Point out business owners in your community. Let them notice that not all work looks the same.

Some businesses are hands-on and practical.

Some are creative.

Some are online.

Some involve helping people.

Some involve making things.

Some involve fixing things.

Some involve teaching, organizing, designing, writing, cooking, cleaning, caring, or selling.

You might expose your children to businesses like:

  • Baking and cake decorating
  • Lawn care or landscaping
  • Pet sitting or dog walking
  • Babysitting or childcare
  • Photography
  • Cleaning services
  • Sewing or alterations
  • Baking and selling homemade goods
  • Tutoring younger children
  • Crafting and handmade products
  • Car detailing
  • Flower arranging
  • Bookkeeping or office help
  • Social media help
  • Web design
  • Printing or custom shirts
  • Home organizing
  • Lawn and garden work
  • Repair and handyman work

The point is not that your child must do one of these exact things.

The point is to help them see possibilities.

As they observe different businesses, they may suddenly say, “I could do that,” or “I would like to try that,” or “I never thought about that before.”

That is a good place to begin.

Start with Their Interests and Strengths

A child who loves animals may do well in pet care.

A child who loves babies may enjoy childcare.

A child who likes art may be interested in handmade products or design.

A child who likes to talk may do well in customer service or sales.

A child who likes organizing may enjoy office tasks, planning, or helping with inventory.

A child who loves to build may be interested in tools, repairs, or woodworking.

A child who loves to write may enjoy editing, blogging, or social media.

A child who likes numbers may enjoy bookkeeping or budgeting.

We should pay attention to what delights them.

Not every child will become an entrepreneur.

But many children can benefit from learning to think like one.

They can learn to notice needs.

They can learn to solve problems.

They can learn to serve people well.

They can learn that work has value.

And they can learn that they do not have to wait until adulthood to start developing useful skills.

Apprenticeship and Internship Matter

One of the best ways to learn is by watching someone else do it.

That is where apprenticeship and internship come in.

A child can learn so much by spending time with someone who already knows how to do a job or run a business.

They can observe how things are done.

They can ask questions.

They can practice skills in a real setting.

They can see what it looks like to serve customers, handle responsibility, solve problems, and work with excellence.

An apprenticeship may be informal.

It may be a family friend, a neighbor, a small business owner, or a relative who is willing to teach a child some skills.

An internship may be more structured.

It may be for an older teen who wants to learn more about a field and gain real-life experience.

You could ask questions like:

  • What kind of work do you enjoy?
  • Who do you know that does that kind of work?
  • Is there someone we could ask to let you shadow them?
  • Could you help for a few hours and learn by observing?
  • What skills would you need to be helpful in that setting?

This does not have to be fancy.

It just needs to be real.

Business Skills Children Can Learn in Homeschool

Entrepreneurship is not only about selling something.

It is also about learning how to think, plan, communicate, and follow through.

There are many business skills children can begin learning at home.

Here are some good ones:

1. Communication

Children need to learn how to speak clearly, listen well, and communicate respectfully.

They can practice this by:

  • making phone calls
  • introducing themselves
  • speaking to adults
  • writing emails
  • answering questions politely
  • describing what they are offering

2. Money Skills

They should learn how money works.

They can practice:

  • counting money
  • making change
  • budgeting
  • saving
  • tracking income and expenses
  • setting prices
  • understanding profit

3. Responsibility

A business owner has to follow through.

Children can learn responsibility by:

  • completing chores
  • keeping a schedule
  • showing up on time
  • finishing assignments
  • taking care of tools and materials
  • being dependable

4. Organization

They need to know how to keep track of things.

They can practice:

  • sorting supplies
  • labeling items
  • keeping records
  • making lists
  • planning steps
  • organizing orders

5. Problem Solving

Things go wrong in business.

That is part of life.

Children can learn how to think through problems by asking:

  • What is the issue?
  • What are the choices?
  • What is the best next step?
  • How can I fix it?
  • What can I learn from this?

6. Customer Service

This is a big one.

They need to learn how to treat people well.

They can practice:

  • being polite
  • answering questions kindly
  • serving others
  • taking feedback without getting upset
  • making things right when needed

7. Work Ethic

This is one of the most important things we can teach.

Children learn work ethic by doing real work.

They learn that:

  • effort matters
  • quality matters
  • honesty matters
  • consistency matters
  • excellence matters

Ways to Practice Entrepreneurship at Home

You do not have to wait until your children are older to begin.

You can start in simple ways.

  • Let them set up a lemonade stand
  • Help them make baked goods to sell
  • Have them make crafts for a small market
  • Let them organize a neighborhood service project
  • Encourage them to pet sit for a family friend
  • Help them offer yard work or cleaning help
  • Let them sell something they made
  • Help them create flyers or a simple ad
  • Have them practice taking orders
  • Show them how to track costs and profit

These little experiences teach so much.

They give children confidence.

They teach them how to interact with people.

They help them see that their work can bless others.

Homeschool is a Great Place to Build Business Skills

One of the advantages of homeschooling is that we are not limited to just book learning.

We can weave life skills into everyday learning.

We can teach math through real money.

We can teach writing through emails and advertisements.

We can teach reading through instructions and research.

We can teach speaking through presentations and conversations.

We can teach planning through projects.

We can teach independence through responsibility.

We can teach our children how to learn, how to work, and how to think.

That is a wonderful foundation for entrepreneurship.

Encourage, Don’t Pressure

Not every child will want to start a business.

And that is okay.

Our job is not to force a path.

Our job is to observe, encourage, and help them explore.

Some children will try several things before they find what fits.

Some will know right away.

Some will need time.

Some will need a lot of help.

Some will need a little push and then they will run with it.

We should not compare them to one another.

We should not decide too quickly what they are or are not capable of.

We should help them grow in the direction God has gifted them.

Final Thoughts

If you want to raise entrepreneurial children, start by exposing them to possibilities.

Let them see different businesses.

Let them meet people who do different kinds of work.

Let them learn real skills.

Let them try things.

Let them watch.

Let them help.

Let them practice.

And as they grow, they may discover not only how to earn money, but how to serve others, use their gifts, and build something meaningful.

That is a beautiful thing to help a child do.

Action Steps

  1. Make a list of businesses in your community that your children could observe or learn from.
  2. Talk with your children about what kinds of work interest them.
  3. Look for a possible apprenticeship or internship opportunity.
  4. Choose 2 or 3 business skills to teach in your homeschool this month.
  5. Let your children practice one real-life money or business activity.

Encouraging Entrepreneurship in Homeschooling

 

 

Penney read her June newsletter to the Safe Haven family, covering several topics including her family’s move to Texas and being closer to grandchildren.

The main focus was on “Raising Young Entrepreneurs in Your Homeschool,” discussing how homeschool families can nurture entrepreneurial skills through creativity, courage, and simple opportunities.

Penney outlined four simple ways to start at home including maker markets, service-based ideas, digital creativity, and family brainstorm nights.

She also announced a new Facebook group called “Homeschooling Can Be Fun,” mentioned her coaching program for homeschool moms, and offered tutoring services for elementary through fifth grade.

The newsletter included a health tip about DMSO and featured 4th of July products including workbook activities about Thomas Paine’s “Common Sense” and American history.

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Why I Chose to Homeschool – 30 Years Ago

Why I Chose to Homeschool – 30 Years Ago

 

When my oldest son, Shawn, was just a year old, I had no idea the path God would gently lead me down.

I first heard about homeschooling while listening to Focus on the Family. Dr. James Dobson was interviewing Dr. Raymond Moore, and something about their conversation stirred my heart. It sounded intriguing – peaceful, even purposeful – but if I’m being honest, I didn’t think I could do it. I didn’t know a single person who homeschooled. It felt like something “other people” did… not me.

But God had a way of bringing what felt distant right into my everyday life.

Not long after, we began attending a new church, and to my surprise, it was filled with homeschooling families. Suddenly, what once felt unfamiliar became visible and real. These weren’t just ideas on a radio program – these were real families, living it out day by day.

Before becoming a mom, I had been a first-grade teacher. So as I listened to the ideas shared on that broadcast, something inside me quietly agreed. I had seen the classroom from the inside. I knew the challenges. I had watched children spend most of their day with other children, often picking up immature behaviors instead of being guided by maturity. I had seen how classrooms sometimes had to move at the pace of the lowest common denominator, leaving little room for children to truly soar.

And I understood the subtle shift that can happen – how children can begin to look more to their peers and teachers for direction than to their own parents.

So when I saw families who were choosing something different, something more intentional, I was drawn to it.

What truly captured my heart, though, was the beauty of the families themselves.

This church didn’t just have a few homeschoolers—they had a support group led by the pastor and his wife. There was community, encouragement, and shared purpose. I saw children who were respectful and joyful. I saw families who were close – truly enjoying one another.

And deep down, I knew… this is what I want.

I wanted to be with my children. I wanted to pour into them—not just in the margins of the day, but in the everyday moments that shape their hearts and lives. I loved teaching, and I didn’t want to give that up—but I also didn’t want to give up being present in my children’s lives.

Homeschooling felt like the best of both worlds.

As time went on, I began doing homeschool assessments for families in our group. That gave me a front-row seat to what homeschooling really looked like. I became familiar with different curricula, teaching styles, and approaches. And the more I saw, the more I loved it.

It wasn’t just about academics.

It was about relationships.
It was about character.
It was about a lifestyle that nurtured both learning and family.

And somewhere along the way, what once felt uncertain became completely settled in my heart:

Homeschooling wasn’t just something I could do…
It was something I wanted to do—wholeheartedly.

In fact, I knew it was the only way I wanted my children to be educated.

When You Feel Like You’re Falling Behind as a Mom (But You’re Not)

When You Feel Like You’re Falling Behind as a Mom (But You’re Not)


Have you ever ended the day feeling like you didn’t quite measure up?

Like somehow… other moms are doing this better than you?

More organized. More patient. More present. More something.

And meanwhile, you’re just trying to keep up.

If that’s you, I want you to know—you’re not alone. And you’re not failing.


Constant Comparison to Other Moms

Comparison has a quiet way of sneaking in.

Sometimes it looks like scrolling through social media and seeing beautifully organized homeschool rooms, peaceful morning baskets, and children who seem perfectly attentive.

Other times, it’s more subtle—watching another mom in your circle and thinking:

She’s so much better at this than I am.

You start to measure yourself:

  • Your homeschool vs. hers
  • Your home vs. hers
  • Your patience vs. hers
  • Your spiritual leadership vs. hers

And without even realizing it, you begin to feel like you’re falling short.

But here’s what we often forget:

You’re comparing your real, everyday life to someone else’s highlight reel—or even just a small glimpse of their story.

You don’t see their hard days.
Their doubts.
Their struggles.

Comparison doesn’t tell the truth—it distorts it.


Overwhelm from Daily Responsibilities

Motherhood is not just one job—it’s many.

You’re:

  • making meals
  • managing schedules
  • teaching (especially in homeschool life)
  • caring for emotional needs
  • cleaning, organizing, planning

And the list never really ends.

By the time the day is over, you’re exhausted… but somehow still feel like there’s more you should have done.

There’s little space left to:

  • sit quietly
  • think clearly
  • spend time being spiritually filled

And that constant pouring out without being poured into?

It leads to deep overwhelm.

Not just physical—but emotional and spiritual.


Guilt That You’re Not Doing “Enough” or Doing It “Right”

This is the quiet pressure so many moms carry.

You second-guess your choices:

  • Should I be using a different curriculum?
  • Am I spending enough time with each child?
  • Was I too impatient today?
  • Am I doing this the “right” way?

It feels like there’s always a better method, a better system, a better version of you that you just haven’t reached yet.

So you carry this low, constant guilt.

Like you’re always a step behind where you should be.

Always needing to be:

  • more organized
  • more intentional
  • more patient
  • more everything

But here’s the truth that often gets lost:

There is no perfect formula for motherhood.


Why These Feelings Run So Deep

These struggles—comparison, overwhelm, guilt—they don’t come from nowhere.

They’re often rooted in something deeper:

A belief that your worth is tied to your performance.

A belief that if you could just do more or be better, you would finally feel peace.

But that kind of peace never lasts.

Because it’s built on pressure… not truth.


What If You’re Not Falling Behind at All?

What if the problem isn’t that you’re failing…

What if it’s that you’re measuring yourself by the wrong standard?

God never asked you to:

  • be like every other mom
  • run your home like someone else
  • carry everything perfectly

He simply asked you to be faithful with what He’s given you.

Your children.
Your home.
Your season.

Not hers.

Yours.


God’s View of You Changes Everything

When you begin to see yourself the way God sees you, something shifts.

You’re not:

  • behind
  • failing
  • “not enough”

You are:

  • chosen for your children
  • equipped for your role
  • seen in every hidden moment

Even the ones no one else notices.

Even the ones that feel small.


You Don’t Have to Carry This Alone

If you’ve been stuck in comparison…
If you feel overwhelmed and stretched thin…
If guilt has been quietly weighing you down…

I created something just for you.

“You Are Not ‘Just a Mom’: 5 Truths God Says About Your Role”

This gentle, Scripture-rooted mini devotional will help you:

  • release comparison
  • quiet the pressure to “do more”
  • reconnect with your identity in Christ
  • find peace in the role God has given you

It’s like a deep breath for your heart in the middle of a full life.

👉 Download your free devotional here


A Final Word for Today

You are not behind.

You are not failing.

And you are not alone in feeling this way.

You are a mom doing meaningful, eternal work—even on the messy, overwhelming, imperfect days.

And that?

That matters more than you know.

You Are Not “Just a Mom”: When Motherhood Feels Invisible, Heavy, and Small

 


You Are Not “Just a Mom”: When Motherhood Feels Invisible, Heavy, and Small

There are moments in motherhood that feel quiet… unseen… even forgotten.

Not the big milestone moments – the ones we take pictures of and share – but the ordinary, everyday pouring out of ourselves that no one seems to notice.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Does what I’m doing even matter?”- this is for you.


Feeling Invisible and Unappreciated

There was a season when I felt this deeply.

Gary was gone all day at work, and I was home with little ones – sweet, precious, but not exactly great conversationalists. Most days, I didn’t talk to another adult at all.

And no one was saying, “You’re doing a good job.”

Even when Gary came home, he couldn’t fully see what my day had been like or how I was feeling. Not because he didn’t care – but because it’s hard to understand something you’re not in the middle of.

So I carried that quiet weight:
Unseen. Unnoticed. Unappreciated.

I felt like I had almost disappeared from the outside world… like I had stepped out of society for a while.

Looking back, I realize something I didn’t understand then:
I needed connection. I needed a friend or two to do life with.

But more than that – I needed to remember that just because my work was unseen, it was not insignificant.


Believing the Lie That You Are “Just a Mom”

I used to say it without even thinking:

“I’m just a mom.”

Maybe you’ve said that too.

I think, for me, it came from comparison. I had been a teacher before. That role felt measurable, visible, and valued.

Motherhood? It felt… ordinary.

Unimpressive.

Like I should be doing something more – something that required a special skill or brought in an income or earned recognition.

But here’s the truth I didn’t see then:

The world measures worth one way.
God measures it another.

And motherhood? It is not small work.

It is shaping hearts.
It is building lives.
It is eternal.


Losing Your Identity in Motherhood

For a long time, I didn’t just feel like a mom… I was a mom.

That was my identity.

A homeschool mom, specifically.

And somewhere along the way, I even placed that role above being a wife. I had to come back to the foundation of it all – my marriage, my relationship with my husband.

But even deeper than that, I had to wrestle with this question:

Who am I, really?

Because when everything revolves around meeting everyone else’s needs, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself.

I would sometimes look at other women and feel… less than.

They seemed more polished.
More accomplished.
More put together.

And yet, deep in my heart?

I loved being a mom.

That was never the problem.

The problem was that I had forgotten where my true identity came from.


The Root of It All: A Misplaced Identity

When we feel invisible…
When we believe we’re “just a mom”…
When we lose ourselves in the daily giving…

It often traces back to one thing:

We’ve forgotten who God says we are.

We start defining ourselves by:

  • what we accomplish
  • what others notice
  • how we compare

Instead of anchoring ourselves in truth.


What God Says About Your Role (This Changes Everything)

What if your role as a mother wasn’t random?

What if it wasn’t lesser?

What if it was… chosen?

Chosen children.
Chosen mother.
Chosen assignment.

Not accidental. Not insignificant.

Intentional.

When you begin to see your motherhood through that lens, everything shifts:

  • The unseen moments matter
  • The ordinary becomes meaningful
  • The quiet sacrifices feel purposeful

You Were Never “Just” a Mom

There is no “just” about what you do.

You are:

  • nurturing hearts
  • shaping character
  • creating a home
  • pointing your children toward truth

That is sacred work.

Even on the days when no one thanks you.
Even on the days when it feels small.


If You’ve Been Feeling This Way… I Want to Help You

If you’re tired of feeling unseen…
If you’ve believed the lie that you’re “just a mom”…
If you’re longing to reconnect with who you are in Christ…

I created something just for you.

“You Are Not ‘Just a Mom’: 5 Truths God Says About Your Role”

It’s a gentle, Scripture-rooted mini devotional designed to help you:

  • feel seen and known
  • reconnect with your identity in Christ
  • release comparison and pressure
  • remember that your work truly matters

This is the encouragement I wish I had in those early years.

👉 Download your free copy here


Final Encouragement

You may feel invisible right now…

But you are not unseen.

Not by God.

And not in the story He is writing through your life and your children.

What you are doing matters—more than you know.