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Growing Your Relationship with Your Daughter
Growing your relationship with your daughter
How a shared journal can bring you closer to each other and to God
The tween and teen years can be tumultuous. As our daughters grow into young women, they are also figuring out their place in the world. They’re changing in many ways, which means we have to change the way we connect with them. Figuring out how to best communicate with your daughter requires patience and intentional practices.
As my daughter, Lexi, continues to grow and change, she and I are working to keep our communication flowing. We don’t always get it right, and we certainly still have years ahead of us still since she is only 12. But we have learned a few things in our journey about how to better communicate with each other. One great way to connect with each other is through a shared journal.
Lexi and I find that journaling together grows our relationship. While we have always had a good relationship and been close, journaling together strengthens our connection even more.
Starting to journal together
A couple of years ago, I learned about mother and daughter journals and thought they’d be a great fit for Lexi and me. I’ve always been able to express myself best through writing. (I’m a professional writer, in fact.) Lexi enjoys writing as well, so it seemed like a good idea for us. I knew writing would allow us to connect in different ways. So, we ordered a mother and daughter journal and tried it out.
The journal was OK. It had some great questions, but it also had some obvious questions we already knew the answers to for each other. And it didn’t include faith at all. Faith is a big part of our life. Not including it just felt like something was missing.
We talked about what we’d do differently to make a journal we liked more. That’s how the idea for “Connecting with Grace” was born. We decided to just do it! “Connecting with Grace” is a mix of silly and serious. We are both serious and silly. And sometimes we are seriously silly! Our journal gives writing prompts or questions to talk about everything from God to boys to funny stories to family relationships to school and more.
How shared journaling works
In a shared journal, moms and daughters each have a page to complete on her own before giving it to the other one. Each of the mom and daughter pages in “Connecting with Grace” connect about a similar topic. And each page also includes a Bible verse or inspirational quote.
For us, I start by answering the first writing prompt for moms. Then I leave the journal and an ink pen on Lexi’s bed. She reads through my answer and then answers the question on her own page. She places it back on my bed. It’s as easy as that! Sometimes we do this every night and sometimes it can be a couple of weeks in between as we get busy with life.
Every we so often, we comment on what each other has written. But even when we don’t, writing and reading the responses gives us time to really think about what we want to say and focus on what the other one is saying. We get to know each other and each other’s hearts even more. Writing allows us to be more transparent and honest with each other than when we talk.
But that’s not to say having one-on-one time isn’t important as well. We decided to include 10 “Face-to-Face with Grace” ideas for moms and daughters throughout “Connecting with Grace,” something we haven’t found in any other shared journals. They’re easy ways moms and daughters can connect in person like going for an ice cream date or taking a trip to the dollar store together just for fun.
The benefits of shared journaling
Shared journaling helps you communicate on a deeper level with your child. I have gotten to know Lexi in ways I hadn’t before through reading her answers to questions. She has gotten to know me in different ways as well.
Like most moms and daughters, we often see each other in our roles more than as individuals. To her, I am “mom” more than “Stacey.” To me, she is a child dependent on me who I can assume feels and thinks exactly like I do. (She doesn’t!) Journaling together allows us to really see each other for who we are. I am often blown away by Lexi’s insights and thoughts. I get to see more of who she really is as a person.
Another benefit of using a faith-based journal like “Connecting with Grace” is growing in faith. My husband and I strive to show our kids how faith in daily life looks. Journaling with my daughter allows me to share some parts of my faith walk with her that don’t usually come up in everyday conversation. In turn, she shares what’s on her heart and asks any questions she has. Plus, we both dig deeper and think more about the topics we’re writing about, including our faith.
“Connecting with Grace” also includes some journal pages without writing prompts throughout so you can take those questions or topics you want to go deeper on and write about them. You can use the pages as a joint prayer journal or whatever comes up for you and your daughter!
Finally, a shared journal is not only a great way for moms and daughters to connect, but the writing prompts make sure we have something to talk about each time we write so we don’t get repetitive or somehow run out of things to say.
Find “Connecting with Grace” on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Connecting-Grace-Mother-Daughter-Journal/dp/B09KF2F9CR or via the Families with Grace product page at https://familieswithgrace.com/products.
About the authors:
Stacey A. Shannon is a freelance journalist, editor and blogger who has been published internationally. She encourages parents on their journey to create homes full of grace, faith and love on her blog, FamiliesWithGrace.com. She lives in the Midwest with her husband, two children and dog. When she’s not writing, you can find her hanging out with her family, reading books, playing games or baking up treats. She loves Jesus and encouraging others through writing.
Lexi Shannon is a middle school student who loves to read and write. She has her own blog, Girls with Grace, which is a section of FamiliesWithGrace.com. She enjoys encouraging other tween girls to be true to themselves as they grow in their relationship with God. She lives in the Midwest with her parents, brother and dog.
Self-care During Stressful Times
Self-care During Stressful Times
- Two-way journaling – you have to make time for it. 📔
- Worship – play worship music and sing with it – out loud! 🎶
- Make decrees of victory – you have authority by the Name and the Blood of Jesus. ✝️
- Take a soaking bath. At least add baking soda to the water. If you can, add Dr. Teal’s Epsom salts or an essential oil. 🛀
- Pray in faith. Pray with your husband if he’s a believer. Pray with a partner. 🙏
- Ask others to pray for you. Share whatever details you’re comfortable with. 🤲
- Listen to encouraging teaching and preaching from pastors and teachers you trust. Graham Cooke does a great job of this. You can find him on YouTube. Here’s a good message from him: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rHob8vPAGVI
- Get a massage or get someone to rub or scratch your back. 💆🏻
- Watch a fun feel-good movie or TV show. Or an inspirational movie. 🍿
- Make time for a hobby that you love. 🎨🏊🏻♀️🏃♀️🏋️♀️🎭
- Stay away from anything or anyone that tears down your faith. Protect your faith at all costs. 🛡️
- Take negative, fearful thoughts captive. Replace them with the truth that your all-powerful Father loves you, takes care of you, and has it all in His hands. ⚔️
- Ask the Lord to send you a mentor. An older woman, or at least someone who has been a Christian longer than you and has matured well in the Lord. 👵
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2000 Mules – That’s a lot of Mules!
2000 Mules?
That’s a lot of mules!
But we’re not talking about the 4-legged kind here. We’re talking about the 2-legged, CHEATING kind.
If you haven’t heard about the new movie by Dinesh D’Souza called 2000 Mules, it’s a must-see! There was so much election fraud that occurred. And this movie covers the ballot drop boxes that were only one aspect of the massive voter fraud that took place.
“Zuckerberg money was a huge catalyst,” he continued. “You take dirty voter rolls, you mail everyone an application whether they ask for it or not, whether they’re even legitimately on the rolls or not, and then you provide a means to stuff them in there.”
These mules were paid to stuff ballot drop boxes with illegal votes. Then those votes got counted as legitimate votes. And guess who they were all for? That’s how a candidate who didn’t even campaign and can hardly remember his name “won” the election with the most votes in history.
Here’s a table of some of the states that had the most offenders.
| State | Mules Identified | Drop Boxes | Estimated Illegal Votes |
|---|---|---|---|
| Pennsylvania | 1,150 | 45 | 275,000 * |
| Michigan | 500 | 50 | 125,000 |
| Wisconsin | 100 | 28 | 14,000 |
| Georgia | 250 | 24 | 30,000 * |
| Arizona | 200 | 20 | 20,000 * |
| TOTAL | 380,000 |
What can we do to defeat the ballot laundering cartel? The solution has “four pillars”. We must:
- Clean the voter rolls. True the Vote has set up a website, www.iv3.us, that helps citizens review their voter rolls and challenge inaccurate records;
- Stop mass mail-in voting and abolish the drop boxes;
- Eliminate private funding of elections;
- Impose punishments that fit the crimes. “Put some people in jail,” Gregg said. “If you put somebody in jail for 10 years for this, you’ll stop it.”
This information is from Electionfraud2020.org
To watch the movie go here – Salem Now.
Here’s a video by Johnny Enlow that gives some information about the movie, too.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hga4vr2Rtys
Whatever you hear about “false”, “faulty”, “dishonest” and “irredeemable flaws” in the movie from fake media and fact checkers, realize the agenda they all push. They will fact-check and debunk anything that goes against their narrative. They do not like Dinesh D’Souza. If you know about his earlier movies, you will know why. They try to make it seem like he is just trying to help President Trump because Trump pardoned him back in 2018.
They use lots of words that convey lots of skepticism, ridicule, and accusation when they describe anything that a Conservative puts out. It’s all called “disinformation”. They will try to plant doubt in your mind before you ever watch. Beware of fact checkers. Many of them are paid to tear down anything conservative.
And don’t get me started on the “conspiracy theorist” label. The conspiracies are no longer theories. They are proven fact. But the media will continue to lie and attempt to debunk even proven facts.
Think for yourself, and research using other media besides the mainstream media.
Use the Brave browser. Use media sites that are not using the Reuters news feed.
Search for truth, and find out what is really going on. Be aware and awake, and spread the truth that you discover.
We need to take back our homes, our families, and our country.
"Oh that God would give every mother a vision of the glory and splendor of the work that is given to her when a babe is placed in her bosom to be nursed and trained! Could she have but one glimpse in to the future of that life as it reaches on into eternity; could she look into its soul to see its possibilities; could she be made to understand her own personal responsibility for the training of this child, for the development of its life, and for its destiny,--she would see that in all God's world there is no other work so noble and so worthy of her best powers, and she would commit to no other's hands the sacred and holy trust given to her." -JR Miller
