How Do You Treat Your Kids?

Racism, sexism and nepotism are not the way of God’s Kingdom, and when Christ talks about His Bride being without spot or wrinkle (see Ephesians 5:27), He is talking about a Church that shows no partiality, and loves without hesitancy. This is what He’s leading us to – to become His beautiful spotless Bride who loves as He loves.

When the Good Samaritan (see Luke 10:25-37) took such wonderful care of the man who’d been attacked on his way to Jerusalem, it showed those around him how they should be living. The priest and the Levite were known to be Godly men, yet did nothing for the injured man. The Samaritans were known for their degradation and violent culture, yet he went out of his way to help the man recover from the attack – he refused to walk away.

What Christ was trying to reveal through this parable was what truly mattered to Him. It doesn’t matter to Him if you are a scholar, pastor, or teacher, but that you are revealing the character of Christ through your actions. By loving without conditions, we reveal Christ on Earth – we are bringing Heaven to Earth. People believe what we do much more than what we say, and to some, we may be the only Bible they will ever read.

~Victoria Boyson as published in The Elijah List

I know that Victoria is talking about the church here, but my church is my family, and the place I’m most real and most responsible for my actions. And the place where I’m the least loving and kind, I hate to admit. I’m so very patient and sweet towards people I don’t live with. But the people I live with see another side of me. As I’m writing this, I’m seeing that I treat my older kids pretty well. They don’t rely on me for much. They can take care of themselves, and they don’t demand much from me. It’s the ones who want something from me who see the side of me I would rather not admit to. It’s my little 7 year old twins and my 4 year old and 2 year old who bring out the real selfish, impatient me. They ask, sometimes demand, things from me that are very inconvenient and annoying to deal with. And they always seem to choose the wrong times to ask.

But I should always be kind and loving, even when they’re being immature, demanding and, yes, even bratty. I know I need to help them see the error of their ways, but I need to keep a warm, loving attitude toward them during the whole process. I only have four little ones left to get this right. I feel the Lord convicting me about this. I’m going to be watching my own attitude and correcting myself in the way I interact with my little ones. Maybe I can get it right before these little ones grow up and aren’t so needy. I believe it will mean a crown for me if I can maintain a calm, sweet attitude with them at all times.

Here’s my chance. I’m not going to blow it.

Lord, help me to be patient and kind with the ones who are under my care. Help me to show them Your love and Your ways as I gently guide them into the correct paths. Forgive me for being selfish in the past and showing them anger and impatience and false impressions of what You are like as a Father. Help me to give up my rights to finish what I’m doing or think my own thoughts when they want to talk to me.

Change me into Your image, and cause my children to see You in me.

In Jesus’ name,
Amen

Do With Me As You Please

David Wilkerson Today
Monday, April 18, 2011
“Do With Me As You Please”

Martin Luther, at the height of all his trials, testified, “Lord, now that you have forgiven me all, do with me as you please.” Luther was convinced that a God who could wipe away all his sins and save his soul could certainly care for his physical body and material needs.

In essence, Luther was saying, “Why should I fear what man can do to me? I serve a God who can cleanse me of my iniquity and bring peace to my soul. It doesn’t matter if everything around me collapses. If my God is able to save me and keep my soul for eternity, why wouldn’t he be able to care for my physical body while I’m on this earth?”

“Oh, Lord, now that I’m pardoned, forgiven and able to stand before you on Judgment Day with exceeding great joy—do with me as you please.”

Brother, sister—rejoice! This present life is not reality. Our reality is eternal life in the presence of our blessed Lord.

So keep the faith! Things are winding down—but we are going up!

I Tell You, It Works!

I was headed out to the library yesterday when my oldest son said, “Oh yeah. I’ve been wanting to read some books by Chesterton, Dante and Shakespeare. Will you see if you can find me some at the library?”

Uh, I don’t even know where they keep books like that at the library. I told him I would ask a librarian to help me find them. He was happy.

I haven’t pushed him to read the Classics. I haven’t forced him to read anything. He hasn’t had a Literature course, as such. He just knows from other things that he has read that he will gain something from reading works by these great thinkers.

I searched the library catalog while I was there. They didn’t have books by any of those guys at our branch! But I found a book I could reserve called “G. K. Chesterton on Shakespeare”. Ah ha, that should be interesting. To Shawn, at least. I don’t know if I could handle such intense and lofty thinking myself, but I’m confident that he can. I also reserved a book of ten of Shakespeare’s plays.

A few quotes by G. K. Chesterton from here:

Fallacies do not cease to be fallacies because they become fashions.

An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered. An inconvenience is an adventure wrongly considered.

The Bible tells us to love our neighbors, and also to love our enemies; probably because they are generally the same people.

The people who are the most bigoted are the people who have no convictions at all.

I have a feeling I’ll be hearing some interesting quotes and ideas as Shawn reads some of Chesterton’s works.

Speaking of which, the Charlotte Mason method works. Shawn has been fed a diet of living books all his life. It’s only natural that he should be hungry for the great thoughts of the great thinkers throughout history. Hence, the title of my post, “I Tell You, It Works!”

And the Holy Spirit can be depended upon to lead them into what they need to know and how they need to study.

This post is included in the Charlotte Mason Carnival here.

Kids and Crowns

We are starting to study the Early Church and the Middle Ages. I had bought a Middle Ages kit from Hands and Hearts a while ago, but I didn’t know who to use it with. I was praying and thinking about it, and I suddenly knew I should use it with Kelsey and Fiona. They both love making things. So we got out the CD and saw that the first project was making a crown. The directions are on the disk and all the materials including glue, paint, jewels and cardboard are in the kit. They provide absolutely everything you need!

As Kelsey started working on paper macheing her crown, the little ones came and started clamoring for crowns, too. Abby was first, so I just quickly stapled the pattern Kelsey had used and made a crown for her. I knew the twins and Emma would see her in her little crown and would want crowns,too, so I grabbed some paper and traced a couple more. I cut them out and let them color them. Then we stapled them together and had a photo shoot.

Kelsey’s crown turned out really pretty. She’s happy with it. Kelsey’s also learning to crochet by watching videos on youtube. She made a headband for her Webkinz dinosaur. Here they are modeling their homemade headgear.

Kelsey, the Creative, Crafty one, loves her Webkinz. Can you tell?

Here’s the Beginning Crochet Tutorial that has helped her learn how to crochet without any prior experience:

Some of my other children are crafty, especially my girls. Anna likes to make cards for special occasions.

Here are a few of the cards she has made:

And Fiona loves to cut paper and make pictures and little figures to play with:

And we just started working with pastels, thanks to Tricia at Hodgepodge

Here is a link to the post

about our first attempt at using pastels. They turned out pretty well, if I say so myself.

One more crafty thing: Fiona’s Play-Do food.

I wasn’t even going to contribute to this week’s CM carnival about handicrafts until I remembered Kelsey’s crocheting and Anna’s cards. Now I see that we do lots of crafty things. It’s mostly the kids’ ideas and imaginations and initiation that brings these things about. But that’s all the better!

Great Ideas: Enjoying Life with Living Books

Give Your Children a Diet of Great Ideas

“In truth, a nation or a man becomes great upon one diet only, the diet of great ideas communicated to those already prepared to receive them by a higher Power than Nature herself.”

Charlotte Mason believed that children should use real books to learn from.

“I think we owe it to children to let them dig their knowledge, of whatever subject, for themselves out of the fit book; and this for two reasons: What a child digs for is his own possession; what is poured into his ear, like the idle song of a pleasant singer, floats out as lightly as it came in, and is rarely assimilated.”

 

“…ideas must reach us directly from the mind of the thinker, and it is chiefly by means of the books they have written that we get into touch with the best minds.”

“…we have it in us to discern a living book, quick, and informed with the ideas proper to the subject of which it treats.”

 

 

“Every scholar of six years old and upwards should study with ‘delight’ his own, living, books on every subject in a pretty wide curriculum. Children between six and eight must for the most part have their books read to them.”

 

 

“By means of the free use of books the mechanical difficulties of education––reading, spelling, composition, etc.––disappear, and studies prove themselves to be ‘for delight, for ornament, and for ability.”

We have “…made children at home in the world of books, and so related them, mind to mind, with thinkers who have dealt with knowledge.”

We must “…put into children’s hands books which, long or short, are living.”

— Charlotte Mason

What are the elements of living books?

  1. Books written by a single author with expertise and enthusiasm for a subject;
  2. Books well written in an engaging style such that they are an enjoyment to read;
  3. Books with high quality information, both in morality and depth.

Some of our favorites are:

  1. Red Sails to Capri by Ann Weil
  2. Laddie by Gene Stratton Porter
  3. Freckles by Gene Stratton Porter
  4. The Wheel on the School by Meindert DeJong
  5. Shades of Gray by Carolyn Reeder
  6. Books by George MacDonald
  7. Books by G. A. Henty
  8. Lamplighter books

How do I use them?

I find a good, living book on a topic that I feel the Lord is telling us to learn about. He does that in many different ways. Sometimes it’s while I’m at the library walking among the shelves. A title will jump out at me, and I recognize it from one of the reading lists, and I just know it’s the one for us right now. Other times, I will be looking through a Sonlight catalog or other list of good books, and a title will catch my eye. Sometimes, I start thinking about what part of history we’re learning about right now, and I go to the library catalog and find books about a particular era or President or event, and I ask the Lord to help me find the right book to start reading to the kids.

There have been times when I found that a book I thought was going to be good and wholesome and living was not so, after all. I quit reading it when I discovered that, even if I was caught up in the story.

I always have a good book going with the older kids that I’m reading aloud to them – at least one! There have been times that I have had two stories going at once. I almost always have a biography or a well-written history book that I’m reading aloud to them, too. The average number that I’ve been reading to them lately, besides the Bible, is three other books.

Right now, I’m reading Jungle Doctor by Paul White and Surprised by the Voice of God by Jack Deere, and I’m about to start on Princess Adelina: An Ancient Christian Tale of Beauty and Bravery by Julie Sutter from Vision Forum.

With these types of books, I don’t have them narrate. But many times the kids will catch me up on where I read last so I can find the right place to start, and in the process they end up narrating the story up to that point. Tricky, huh?

I usually read for about two hours. Sometimes they beg me to read one more chapter. At other times, they know that the chapters are long, and it’s time to move on to something else. Sometimes, I read until I can’t read any more!

My kids often ponder what I’ve read to them and ask me questions later or comment on something that I read about. My oldest son is by far the most engaged with the books I read aloud to them. He thinks about the things that were written, and many times will tell his dad what we read during the day. He especially enjoys and is stimulated by the George MacDonald books I’ve been reading to them. There is a lot of philosophy and theology in these novels that really make you think and give you new perspectives on basic issues like a personal relationship with God and how nature causes a person to believe in God. I consider them living books, and we enjoy them immensely.

I’m reading a book to the younger kids right now. It’s a very long one, and I don’t read it to them every day. But they enjoy it. It’s called The Ark, the Reed, and the Fire Cloud by Jenny L. Cote.

I also have books that I don’t have time to read aloud from our home library or from the public library that I assign to one or more of the children to read on their own. These may go along with the topic we’re studying or may be something that I just feel they would enjoy or would benefit from reading.

How do I choose them?

Here are some good book lists that I have used over the years:

Sonlight catalog lists readers and read-alouds that are excellent and correspond to time periods of history.

All Through the Ages by Christine Miller lists books by time periods and reading levels

Books Children Love by Elizabeth Wilson

Teaching Children by Diane Lopez

Honey for a Child’s Heart by Gladys Hunt

Lamplighter Books catalog or website

Heart of Wisdom – in this curriculum, Robin Sampson lists books that go with the topic covered. She believes in living books, too!

Diana Waring’s history curriculum – History Revealed – you can find this at Answers in Genesis

If you would like to know what our use of living books has yielded in the lives of my children, you may check out the post “Fruits of a Charlotte Mason-Style Education”.