Changed By Love

Changed By Love

Following the Lamb wherever he goes… Revelation 14:4

An Open Letter to the New Generation of Homeschoolers

The second post on this page tells more about me and why I write this blog. If you’re a homeschooler, please read this post and do whatever you can to preserve our homeschool freedom in this nation.

liberty's torch

I would like to challenge new homeschoolers to carry the torch of homeschooling without government interference. Please learn the history of homeschooling in the United States. Find out about what happens in other countries when people desire to teach their children at home so that they can impart their values to their children.
See this story, for example. In most countries, they are persecuted and their children are taken away from them or forcibly taken to public school.

We have the freedom to homeschool in every state in the United States – now. But it didn’t used to be that way. Chris Klicka and the wonderful people at HSLDA helped the early homeschool pioneers to fight to make it legal. Before that, people in the U.S. who felt that God was calling them to teach their children at home were treated just like those people in other countries are treated now. They were persecuted by truant officers. They were even thrown in jail. They had their children taken away from them. They had Children’s Services called on them. They had to hide in their homes and never go out during school hours, or they would get “caught” homeschooling. This was in the 1980’s and ’90’s. It wasn’t that long ago.

There are books that tell some of these stories of the hard-fought battle to make homeschooling legal in America. One of these is Homeschool Heroes by Chris Klicka. There are interviews with early pioneers that tell of the harrowing experiences of being taken to court and threatened with jail time if they continued to educate their children at home. One that I know of is at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/watchtalk/2009/09/01/cultivating-your-childs-potential. This is an interview that Diana Waring did with Zan Tyler, who began homeschooling long before it was cool or accepted. The Lord led her into homeschooling and led her through the fire of legal battles and real threats to her freedom. Her stories are amazing and hard for us to believe in the atmosphere we live in now with the acceptance of homeschooling that we enjoy.

But there are threats to our freedom to homeschool in the way that we feel led of the Lord. Many times there has been legislation brought up to try to regulate homeschooling. This has happened in state governments and even in the federal government. The homeschoolers of my generation knew that we were the beneficiaries of great sacrifice and work by the generation before us. Our local support groups and state organizations made sure that we knew that homeschooling is a privilege to be cherished. They told us to guard that freedom and not to be fooled by any attempts of the establishment to infringe upon our rights or to curtail them in any way.

There have been several attempts to force homeschool parents to get a teaching certificate. Education falls under the auspices of state government, so the rules vary from state to state. Each of us needs to watch our state governments and see what legislation they are considering regarding our right to homeschool freely without any government interference. Each homeschool family should join HSLDA and keep track of legislation and threats to our freedom and cases where freedom is already being challenged by public schools and legislators. We all need to stand together.

Please be vigilant about this precious right that we have and don’t hand anything to your local school district that is not required by the law of your state. Be careful and cherish homeschooling as the gift of God that it is.

I linked this post at the BIG Family Friday Link Up at Holy Spirit-Led Homeschooling

Adam Names the Animals Game Accomplishes Several Purposes

I downloaded this File Folder game, Adam Names the Animals,  from Bible Story Printables, because I want the twins to learn to read and have fun while they’re doing it.

Little did I know that it would lead to a unit study on animals. We took a field trip today that ties in with our study of animals. We saw (actually some of us rode) camels. We saw llamas, calves, goats, ponies and chickens (oops, that was the twins being afraid to ride the ponies!)

You can see pictures of these adventures at this post.

Twins playing Adam Names the Animals
Garrett studying a word card to find out which animal to place it on
Placing a word card on the right animal picture
Learning to read in order to play a game. What a novel idea!

The twins are really getting the hang of reading now. They have been working through their Phonics books. They’re in Book C of the Primer for the Explode the Code series. They watched the Leapfrog DVD’s, and they have a good understanding of the way that letters go together to make words.

They have done a few other activities that have ignited their desire to learn to read. Their friend next door has been reading for a few years, and she’s the same age as they are, so that has been a very strong motivating factor. They are progressing well, and I’m proud of them.

Pick Your Own Apples and Ride a Camel

I could have sworn I used to have a neck! Isn't this picture hilarious?

We went apple picking at the local orchard today, Eckert’s near Belleville. They’re BIG in Belleville! That’s an inside joke with Heather Peterson. I’ll see if she comes to read my blog. Tee hee.

Anyway, we had lots of fun. Besides picking apples, we got to ride a camel, play in a sandbox and feed farm animals and wild animals by hand. We also got to ride a wagon pulled by a tractor to get to the apple trees.

Morgan riding a camel.
Kelsey's turn to ride the camel.
Kelsey feeding a deer
Down on the Farm!
The llamas were ignoring Kelsey and the pellets she wanted to feed them.
Anna reaching for the really big apples.
My bag's full. We can go now.
Me in another picture?!!! And Gary takes better pictures. He should be the family photographer!

We had a wonderful time. Praise the Lord for cooler weather and a husband who is willing to take his family to places that are fun and educational, even when he would rather do lots of other things.

Excellent Older Children Help With Younger Children

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I have a 3-year-old who throws tantrums quite often. She wants to do everything herself. I keep telling her that she’s too little, but when she gets older I will let her do those things; like microwave her own food, wash dishes, sweep the floor, pour her own drink and do her own laundry. She thinks she should be allowed to do those things now.

When I take things away from her and do them for her, she cries and throws herself on the floor and kicks her feet in the air. She wants to cook and clean and peel her own carrots, but at the same time, she feels that it’s her prerogative to pout and scream and flail her arms and legs around like a – like a 3-year-old.

Then there’s the issue of her fighting with her baby sister much of the time. Sometimes it’s motivated by jealousy, other times by selfishness, not wanting to share, etc. Sometimes she just seems to have a mean streak. She can be a bully to her older brother and sister, the twins, too. She hurts them by scratching, pinching and biting at different times. Then they start crying! Sometimes I feel like – “Please just stop the crying!”

Intervention - breaking up an argument over a stuffed animal

I get impatient with her, as do most of the other people in the family when she has been doing this sort of thing all day long. There are times when I deliberately look her in the eye, listen to find out what she wants and do it for her, but then she gets upset because I gave her a yellow straw instead of a blue straw. I will not let her be spoiled. That is simply not tolerable in a family with 10 children. She seems determined to become spoiled. But we are determined to keep her from becoming spoiled. So I sometimes have to spank. I don’t spank hard or often. When I do, it seems to let her know who’s boss and helps her to understand her boundaries.

Getting along for once

Sometimes I take her aside and talk to her. If I spend some time with her one on one, she usually settles down and acts less demanding. One of my daughters will usually step in and do this sort of thing if I’m busy with the 2-year-old or some other task. They have learned to do whatever is necessary to help her get control of herself. They are usually better than I am at being kind and patient with her.

A lot of times, she is really just tired and sleepy and needs to go to bed. When it gets later, and she is acting extremely demanding, I sometimes ask her if she wants to go to bed and she says Yes. That seems like a miracle to me, because my older children would never admit that they were sleepy, and they never willingly went to bed at that age.

This is how she really wants to be inside. I just know it.

I’m thankful for older children who will intervene with the younger children when they see that I am frazzled and can’t take any more. They are learning techniques and principles that I am sure will assist them in the future with raising their own children or dealing with children (and people in general) in their future jobs, careers and ministries.

Diverting her from a potential tantrum. Give her something fun and unusual to do.

30 Days of Excellent in Every Way

I’m participating in this challenge that my friend Dana Bailey put out to all of us moms. This post tells the purpose and instructions for how to participate:

As a mom, I know that I focus too much on all the wrong things my kids do and miss out on all the right things they do. I get frustrated with chores not done or with their disobedience. When I only see their sin, I miss out on the blessing that my children really are.

Genesis 1:31 says, “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was excellent in every way.” (NLT)

I love how that is worded, “excellent in every way”…. Our children are excellent in every way, in spite of how they act at times. They were made in Gods’ image and he said his creation is excellent.

Do you think your kids are excellent? I know that there are many times that I don’t see them as excellent.

I want you to join me in 30 Days of Excellent in Every Way in September.

Years ago, the Lord impressed on me the importance of letting my kids know that I think they are excellent. I began making a special effort in showing my kids either by my words or my actions that I think they are wonderful!

This is what you do, if you want to join me. For the month of September:

1. Pray & ask God to show you ways in which your kids are excellent. If you are like me, you may have a child that is more difficult than others. This is the child that you need really need to focus on. Pray for that child & ask God to show you how that child is excellent.

2. Keep a journal if you like of what the Lord shows you about your kids. If you have a blog, blog about it & send me your link!

3. At least once a day, post a status on face book about how one of your children was excellent. Don’t use their name if you don’t want to, especially if they are on face book.

4. Invite your friends. Ask your mom friends to join us.

5. Use excellent words with your children. Tell them when you catch them doing something wonderful. Compliment them. Build them up with your positive, encouraging words!

I am inviting you to do this with me to keep me accountable! Plus I can’t wait to see how the Lord moves in my heart towards my attitude toward my children.

I think Dana has a great idea. It takes praying for them a step further. We are walking out our love for them. Sometimes we take for granted that they know that we love them. But I need words of affirmation, and I know that they do, too.

Today I woke up to one of my daughters fixing breakfast for everyone. Sausage and eggs and choices of different types of toast or bagels. It was delicious! She did it of her own accord. She didn’t act like it was a burden or expect accolades. She humbly fixed breakfast and quietly served us all with a pure heart.

I’m so proud of her. It’s not the first time she has done such a thing. I’m very grateful for a daughter who serves with such a sweet attitude.

If you would like to participate, go to Dana’s blog or find this group on Facebook.