Praying for Your Husband: 6 Prayer Priorities for a Godly Marriage

I’m incredibly honored to be a part of the blog series about marriage at Angel Penn’s blog this month. The series has been going on all through the month of February, the month of Valentines Day with its emphasis on love. The series is called 28 Days of Godly Marriage #TheJourneyThroughIDo. Angel Penn has a wonderful blog at It covers some very important, sensitive issues as well as practical areas of marriage that women from diverse backgrounds have shared about with great transparency and candor. Make sure you read all of the posts. You will be glad you did. They are all so good!

My post for the series is here at


As wives, we have a responsibility to be helpmeets to our husbands. One of the best ways to help our husbands is to pray for them. We need to do all we can do to ensure a godly marriage.

As I was preparing to write this post, I thought to ask my husband what one thing he wanted me to pray for him. He said that the thing that impacts him the most is his self-image. He said that he needs to feel like he is accomplishing something and that he is able to take care of his family. I have to be honest and tell you that his self-image wasn’t even on my original list of things I thought he needed prayer for.

So I adjusted my list of 5 things we should pray for our husbands to include his self-image.

Now I present to you my list of 6 things we should pray for our husbands!

1. His self-image

I should have known that he would say this is his biggest prayer need. After all, I saw how it affected him when he was left without the ability to provide for his family and unable to get any kind of job at all for many months. He felt utterly worthless, useless, and hopeless!

I prayed for him without ceasing, because he was desperately unhappy and downright angry. He was certainly not fun to be around.

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Marriage: The Husband’s Role


In this scope,  Gary gets to tell his side of the story. He talks about the importance of communication, trust, finding out and carrying out the man’s role in marriage. And lots more.  He even finds out something surprising at the end of the scope.  Penney is rather surprised,  too. So make sure you listen till the end!

10 Commandments of Raising Kids Who Love God

1. Treat kids like people, not your possessions.

Treat them with dignity and respect. Be kind and gentle to them. Be as nice to them as you are to your friends and to strangers. Don’t take out your frustrations on them. Don’t talk down to them or be condescending.

2. Give kids freedom to explore and play.

Let them use their imagination. Charlotte Mason calls it Masterly Inactivity. If you haven’t heard of Charlotte Mason, you can google her name and find out lots of great information about her and her philosophy of raising and educating children.

Let them come up with their own ideas of things to do. Don’t call them away from something they are enjoying and using their imagination for to do a workbook or something you had planned. Unless you know for sure that the other thing is better for them than what they are doing. Let them spend a lot of time outside. They process the things they learn from books and what you teach them during their down time. They make connections. They think more deeply about things. They make the knowledge and information their own. It sticks better.

3. Let them be who they are.

Don’t try to make them act and think just like you.

4. Pray with them about using their talents and gifts to glorify God from the time they are young.

Practice prophetic parenting. Help them find their purpose. Be led by the Spirit and follow your intuition when it comes to the best way to relate to your children.

5. Bless them and speak well of them to themselves.

Tell them how glad you are that God gave them to you. Tell them what you see in them, their strengths and abilities. Make sure you have their hearts. Keep the connection strong. Spend time with them. Make good memories with them.

6. Give them a strong family identity to feel proud of and tell them that they have an important role in the family.

Their prayers matter. Build up their sense of security and confidence.

7. Show them unconditional love.

Do everything you do for them out of love for them, not to get your own needs met. Don’t try to control them. Correct the discipline with grace. Disciple them. Communicate clearly and lovingly. Don’t assume that you know their motives. Let them tell you what they think and feel. Show lots of affection. Spend one on one time with them. Find out what is going on with them, especially when there’s conflict or they seem out of sorts. When they are acting most unlovable pull them close and show the most love.

8. Give them attention and encourage their efforts.

Encourage their imagination. Spend time with them. Let them interrupt you to show you something they did or saw or want to talk about that was interesting to them. Listen to them. Show interest in what they are interested in. Don’t talk at them and dominate the conversation. Let them talk.

9. Point them to God as their Father who will always be there for them to love them and take care of them.

Teach them to put God first in their lives and to ask Him to fill them with His Spirit. Teach them to go to Him to get every need met. Teach them how to hear God’s voice.

10. Teach them to pray and believe and trust God and expect Him to answer their prayers.