Proof in the Pudding: An Interview with Melanie Young

I am doing an interview series called “Proof in the Pudding”.

This interview was perfect to start a series by this name. Because I literally got to taste the pudding! My husband and I went to a Marriage Retreat called “Come Away” hosted by Hal and Melanie Young of Raising Real Men ministries. And Hal and Melanie’s sons catered the event! Three of their six sons cooked the food and served it to us in a most excellent way. It was all delicious, and the service was exceptional! We were very blessed by all of their efforts. My husband loved it! Food is definitely the way to his heart. I daresay that might be his dominant love language.

I took advantage of the time I had with Melanie to ask her some questions, and she graciously granted me an interview. I asked her about her philosophy of homeschooling, the overall approach and style she used, and how her children have turned out so far. She is a very honest, candid person, and it was an honor and privilege to interview such a gracious leader in our Christian homeschool movement.

She and her husband, Hal, have written several books, including “Raising Real Men”, and “My Beloved and My Friend: How to Be Married to Your Best Friend Without Changing Spouses”. I bought the second book and am currently reading it. It is very good. You can find many other family, parenting and marriage resources at their website at Raising Real Men.

You can see our interview here:

Be Changed By Love Because You Were Wired for Love


Did you know that you were Wired for Love?

What does that mean anyway?

According to Dr. Caroline Leaf, a cognitive neuroscientist, your brain was wired for love, you were wired for love.

God made us in His image. And He is love. So, doesn’t it make sense that He wired us for love?

Well, what does THAT mean?

There is a “perfect you” that we should be striving to live in. When we step out of our “perfect you”, we get into fear and other negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions. We have to learn to fear, and when we do we put our body and brain out of whack!

When we learn to live out of fear and give into these negative thoughts, we actually cause brain damage!

We have learned to fear through living in this fallen world, through thought patterns and ideas that were passed on to us by people around us, the ways that people have treated us, by our own sinful ways, traumatic events in our lives, whispers of the enemy that cause doubt, and other factors that affect us and cause us to expect negative outcomes and to fear the future and dread the unknown.

But God wants to restore us to our “perfect you”.

You were made for love. God made you so that He could love you.

Here’s the truth:

God delights in you.

He views you as His little child who is in the process of learning what life is really about, what God is really like, and the reason that He made you, the purpose of your life, the thing that only YOU can do.

You can get back to the original blueprint that God had for you by changing the way you think. When you know that you are loved unconditionally, that God has wonderful plans for you, you learn how He sees you, that He favors you, He has extraordinary affection for you, He smiles on you, you have His heart, you have His favor, you begin to think differently. You begin to see yourself as a child of God.

The way that God sees Jesus is the same way He sees us.

We renew our minds.

We start to develop the mind of Christ.

Jesus had a great self-image. He lived in His “perfect you” all the time.

Jesus was wired for love, and unlike us, He never learned to fear. He never succumbed to the worldly way or the satanic way of viewing Himself. He always knew who He was.

We can be constantly becoming more like Jesus by thinking the way Jesus thought and the way Jesus thinks.

As we do this, we will be Changed By Love.

See what I did there?

We change the way we think by taking negative and toxic thoughts captive as soon as they come into our minds, casting them out, and substituting positive, loving, true, pure God’s thoughts in their place.

Simple, but not easy, because we have to overcome years and years of wrong thinking habits.

But we have to start somewhere, and there’s no time like the present to start working on changing our thoughts.

Become the best version of you. Change your thoughts.

And let God Change you By His Love!!!

If you are interested in brain research, you should listen to Dr. Caroline Leaf, a cognitive neuroscientist, and read her books. She has a website http://drleaf.com that is full of videos, episodes of her TV show, her blog and more.