10 Commandments of Raising Kids Who Love God

1. Treat kids like people, not your possessions.

Treat them with dignity and respect. Be kind and gentle to them. Be as nice to them as you are to your friends and to strangers. Don’t take out your frustrations on them. Don’t talk down to them or be condescending.

2. Give kids freedom to explore and play.

Let them use their imagination. Charlotte Mason calls it Masterly Inactivity. If you haven’t heard of Charlotte Mason, you can google her name and find out lots of great information about her and her philosophy of raising and educating children.

Let them come up with their own ideas of things to do. Don’t call them away from something they are enjoying and using their imagination for to do a workbook or something you had planned. Unless you know for sure that the other thing is better for them than what they are doing. Let them spend a lot of time outside. They process the things they learn from books and what you teach them during their down time. They make connections. They think more deeply about things. They make the knowledge and information their own. It sticks better.

3. Let them be who they are.

Don’t try to make them act and think just like you.

4. Pray with them about using their talents and gifts to glorify God from the time they are young.

Practice prophetic parenting. Help them find their purpose. Be led by the Spirit and follow your intuition when it comes to the best way to relate to your children.

5. Bless them and speak well of them to themselves.

Tell them how glad you are that God gave them to you. Tell them what you see in them, their strengths and abilities. Make sure you have their hearts. Keep the connection strong. Spend time with them. Make good memories with them.

6. Give them a strong family identity to feel proud of and tell them that they have an important role in the family.

Their prayers matter. Build up their sense of security and confidence.

7. Show them unconditional love.

Do everything you do for them out of love for them, not to get your own needs met. Don’t try to control them. Correct the discipline with grace. Disciple them. Communicate clearly and lovingly. Don’t assume that you know their motives. Let them tell you what they think and feel. Show lots of affection. Spend one on one time with them. Find out what is going on with them, especially when there’s conflict or they seem out of sorts. When they are acting most unlovable pull them close and show the most love.

8. Give them attention and encourage their efforts.

Encourage their imagination. Spend time with them. Let them interrupt you to show you something they did or saw or want to talk about that was interesting to them. Listen to them. Show interest in what they are interested in. Don’t talk at them and dominate the conversation. Let them talk.

9. Point them to God as their Father who will always be there for them to love them and take care of them.

Teach them to put God first in their lives and to ask Him to fill them with His Spirit. Teach them to go to Him to get every need met. Teach them how to hear God’s voice.

10. Teach them to pray and believe and trust God and expect Him to answer their prayers.


Why Do We Have to Wait for Answers to Prayer?

Are you waiting on God to do something big for you?

Are you tired of waiting?

If you are in this camp, I know how you feel.

Waiting is part of our spiritual training. Not my favorite part. Is it yours?

But the payoff is worth it.

“I am sure God keeps no one waiting unless He sees that it is good for him to wait.” ~ #CSLewis

I had some thoughts about waiting correctly with the right posture of your heart.

As you listen to this, think about your heart attitude as you go through a period of waiting for your prayers to be answered.

Give God the gift of your faith and trust.

He is blessed by it, and He deserves it.

He is faithful and true.

We can trust Him.

He is in control, and He knows what He’s doing.

So… Let’s “Wait patiently for Him to act”. Psalme 37:7

“I do not know why there is this difference, but I am sure that God keeps no one waiting unless He sees that it is good for him to wait. When you do enter your room, you will find that the long wait has done you some kind of good which you would not have had otherwise. But you must regard it as waiting, not as camping. You must keep on praying for light: and of course, even in the hall, you must begin trying to obey the rules which are common to the whole house. And above all you must be asking which door is the true one; not which pleases you best by its paint and paneling.” – C.S. Lewis


What it Means to Be Changed By Love

I am Penney Douglas. I have been Changed By Love.

I am still in the process of being Changed By Love.

What does it mean to be Changed By Love?

One way to be Changed By Love is to overcome fear.

I started out with lots of fear: Fear of man, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of embarrassment, fear of making a fool of myself, fear of not measuring up, being insignificant, not being good enough, etc.

Can you relate to any of these fears? Maybe you have been plagued by other fears than these, but nonetheless, most of us start out with certain fears that we struggle to get over throughout our lifetimes.

But we need to do what it takes to overcome all types of fear.

Why try so hard to conquer fear in our lives?

Because there is no fear in love.

And perfect love casts out fear.

It’s not God’s will that we live in fear.

Fear is the enemy’s will for our lives.

Fear is faith in the enemy’s power over us.

God wants us to put our faith in His power over the enemy.

So who do you trust – God or the enemy?

God is love. Perfect love casts out fear.

So trust in God, and cast out fear.

The new person that you become – the new mindset you will carry – will be based on Love.

This is one way that Love changes us.

There are more ways.

Stay tuned.

There is more to come!

Pure and Holy Thoughts

I hosted Homeschool Happy Hour for www.homeschoolscopes.tv, and I ended up preaching!


Why Ninja Sheep Should Educate Their Children at Home

This post addresses the 7 Mountain Paradigm that Lance Wallnau teaches about and how we should go secretly into the Education mountain and gain influence over it.

How do ninjas train? Do they go to a large, public institution to be trained? I don’t think so. We are supposed to be ninja sheep, right? So shouldn’t we be trained in a private, separate school instead of a large, public school that happens to be in our neighborhood paid for by taxpayers?

Shouldn’t we have specialized training in spiritual warfare, biblical wisdom, and godly character? And shouldn’t parents be mentors to their own children to help them discover their gifts and talents and callings and election and help them get the training and instruction they need to increase their skills and knowledge in whatever God is calling them to do?

This would be a mini-church in the home. Training the next generation in specialized training centers called home. With mentors called Mom and Dad.

Then we won’t lose so many of our children to liberal, secular humanistic thought. They won’t turn against their parents’ ideas and teaching and beliefs. They won’t be turned into socialists because of being exposed to that teaching day in and day out and propagandized and indoctrinated by professors of socialistic, liberal, humanistic thought. They won’t be swayed or persuaded by professors that ridicule the beliefs of their parents and the generations that came before them. They will be grounded in the faith of their fathers. Or at least they will be more likely to if the groundwork of faith in God has been laid in their hearts by their mothers and fathers every day at home. They will have a foundation to stand on that includes the word of God and the power of the Holy Spirit in their hearts.

We can train them up in the way that they should go. We can teach them God’s ways and principles. Then when they are older and mature enough to stand against false teaching and temptations of the enemy, we can send them out as arrows aimed at the target that God has set for them. We can shoot them toward the mountain that God has called them to, and they will be more likely to hit the mark than those that have been trained by godless teachers who mock and criticize God and their parents and tell them that their parents are old-fashioned fuddy duddies with outmoded, outdated, obsolete beliefs that are no longer relevant.

This is a summary of my reasons for believing that homeschooling is the best form of education for Christian parents to provide for their ninja sheep children.