10 Commandments of Raising Kids Who Love God

1. Treat kids like people, not your possessions.

Treat them with dignity and respect. Be kind and gentle to them. Be as nice to them as you are to your friends and to strangers. Don’t take out your frustrations on them. Don’t talk down to them or be condescending.

2. Give kids freedom to explore and play.

Let them use their imagination. Charlotte Mason calls it Masterly Inactivity. If you haven’t heard of Charlotte Mason, you can google her name and find out lots of great information about her and her philosophy of raising and educating children.

Let them come up with their own ideas of things to do. Don’t call them away from something they are enjoying and using their imagination for to do a workbook or something you had planned. Unless you know for sure that the other thing is better for them than what they are doing. Let them spend a lot of time outside. They process the things they learn from books and what you teach them during their down time. They make connections. They think more deeply about things. They make the knowledge and information their own. It sticks better.

3. Let them be who they are.

Don’t try to make them act and think just like you.

4. Pray with them about using their talents and gifts to glorify God from the time they are young.

Practice prophetic parenting. Help them find their purpose. Be led by the Spirit and follow your intuition when it comes to the best way to relate to your children.

5. Bless them and speak well of them to themselves.

Tell them how glad you are that God gave them to you. Tell them what you see in them, their strengths and abilities. Make sure you have their hearts. Keep the connection strong. Spend time with them. Make good memories with them.

6. Give them a strong family identity to feel proud of and tell them that they have an important role in the family.

Their prayers matter. Build up their sense of security and confidence.

7. Show them unconditional love.

Do everything you do for them out of love for them, not to get your own needs met. Don’t try to control them. Correct the discipline with grace. Disciple them. Communicate clearly and lovingly. Don’t assume that you know their motives. Let them tell you what they think and feel. Show lots of affection. Spend one on one time with them. Find out what is going on with them, especially when there’s conflict or they seem out of sorts. When they are acting most unlovable pull them close and show the most love.

8. Give them attention and encourage their efforts.

Encourage their imagination. Spend time with them. Let them interrupt you to show you something they did or saw or want to talk about that was interesting to them. Listen to them. Show interest in what they are interested in. Don’t talk at them and dominate the conversation. Let them talk.

9. Point them to God as their Father who will always be there for them to love them and take care of them.

Teach them to put God first in their lives and to ask Him to fill them with His Spirit. Teach them to go to Him to get every need met. Teach them how to hear God’s voice.

10. Teach them to pray and believe and trust God and expect Him to answer their prayers.


Why Do We Have to Wait for Answers to Prayer?

Are you waiting on God to do something big for you?

Are you tired of waiting?

If you are in this camp, I know how you feel.

Waiting is part of our spiritual training. Not my favorite part. Is it yours?

But the payoff is worth it.

“I am sure God keeps no one waiting unless He sees that it is good for him to wait.” ~ #CSLewis

I had some thoughts about waiting correctly with the right posture of your heart.

As you listen to this, think about your heart attitude as you go through a period of waiting for your prayers to be answered.

Give God the gift of your faith and trust.

He is blessed by it, and He deserves it.

He is faithful and true.

We can trust Him.

He is in control, and He knows what He’s doing.

So… Let’s “Wait patiently for Him to act”. Psalme 37:7

“I do not know why there is this difference, but I am sure that God keeps no one waiting unless He sees that it is good for him to wait. When you do enter your room, you will find that the long wait has done you some kind of good which you would not have had otherwise. But you must regard it as waiting, not as camping. You must keep on praying for light: and of course, even in the hall, you must begin trying to obey the rules which are common to the whole house. And above all you must be asking which door is the true one; not which pleases you best by its paint and paneling.” – C.S. Lewis


Prayer for My Husband – Results

I have seen good results from praying this prayer for my husband.

Have you?

I have been praying this prayer for my husband for many years. I have seen changes in his attitudes, thinking, and priorities. I am so thankful that God gave me this prayer so long ago. My husband is a real family man now! He really cares about what happens with our children. He wants to do his part in teaching them important principles and truths that will help them to live their lives in a successful way that fulfills God’s purpose for their lives. He is much more attentive and affectionate with me, too.

I want to know if any of you have prayed this prayer or a similar prayer or if you asked me to pray for your marriage – I would be grateful if you would share with us what God has done in your marriage and in your husband’s heart.

Please leave a comment and testify about what God has done for your marriage, so we can glorify and praise God together.

Thank you in advance!

Be Changed By Love Because You Were Wired for Love

Did you know that you were Wired for Love?

What does that mean anyway?

According to Dr. Caroline Leaf, a cognitive neuroscientist, your brain was wired for love, you were wired for love.

God made us in His image. And He is love. So, doesn’t it make sense that He wired us for love?

Well, what does THAT mean?

There is a “perfect you” that we should be striving to live in. When we step out of our “perfect you”, we get into fear and other negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions. We have to learn to fear, and when we do we put our body and brain out of whack!

When we learn to live out of fear and give into these negative thoughts, we actually cause brain damage!

We have learned to fear through living in this fallen world, through thought patterns and ideas that were passed on to us by people around us, the ways that people have treated us, by our own sinful ways, traumatic events in our lives, whispers of the enemy that cause doubt, and other factors that affect us and cause us to expect negative outcomes and to fear the future and dread the unknown.

But God wants to restore us to our “perfect you”.

You were made for love. God made you so that He could love you.

Here’s the truth:

God delights in you.

He views you as His little child who is in the process of learning what life is really about, what God is really like, and the reason that He made you, the purpose of your life, the thing that only YOU can do.

You can get back to the original blueprint that God had for you by changing the way you think. When you know that you are loved unconditionally, that God has wonderful plans for you, you learn how He sees you, that He favors you, He has extraordinary affection for you, He smiles on you, you have His heart, you have His favor, you begin to think differently. You begin to see yourself as a child of God.

The way that God sees Jesus is the same way He sees us.

We renew our minds.

We start to develop the mind of Christ.

Jesus had a great self-image. He lived in His “perfect you” all the time.

Jesus was wired for love, and unlike us, He never learned to fear. He never succumbed to the worldly way or the satanic way of viewing Himself. He always knew who He was.

We can be constantly becoming more like Jesus by thinking the way Jesus thought and the way Jesus thinks.

As we do this, we will be Changed By Love.

See what I did there?

We change the way we think by taking negative and toxic thoughts captive as soon as they come into our minds, casting them out, and substituting positive, loving, true, pure God’s thoughts in their place.

Simple, but not easy, because we have to overcome years and years of wrong thinking habits.

But we have to start somewhere, and there’s no time like the present to start working on changing our thoughts.

Become the best version of you. Change your thoughts.

And let God Change you By His Love!!!

If you are interested in brain research, you should listen to Dr. Caroline Leaf, a cognitive neuroscientist, and read her books. She has a website http://drleaf.com that is full of videos, episodes of her TV show, her blog and more.

What it Means to Be Changed By Love

I am Penney Douglas. I have been Changed By Love.

I am still in the process of being Changed By Love.

What does it mean to be Changed By Love?

One way to be Changed By Love is to overcome fear.

I started out with lots of fear: Fear of man, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of embarrassment, fear of making a fool of myself, fear of not measuring up, being insignificant, not being good enough, etc.

Can you relate to any of these fears? Maybe you have been plagued by other fears than these, but nonetheless, most of us start out with certain fears that we struggle to get over throughout our lifetimes.

But we need to do what it takes to overcome all types of fear.

Why try so hard to conquer fear in our lives?

Because there is no fear in love.

And perfect love casts out fear.

It’s not God’s will that we live in fear.

Fear is the enemy’s will for our lives.

Fear is faith in the enemy’s power over us.

God wants us to put our faith in His power over the enemy.

So who do you trust – God or the enemy?

God is love. Perfect love casts out fear.

So trust in God, and cast out fear.

The new person that you become – the new mindset you will carry – will be based on Love.

This is one way that Love changes us.

There are more ways.

Stay tuned.

There is more to come!