Review and Giveaway of “Keep Your Love On” by Danny Silk

Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

Relationships take a lot of work. More work than many people think. More work than many are willing to invest.

Whether it be the relationship between a husband and wife, mother and daughter, father and son, or any other combination you can permutate, there are dynamics, personalities, human foibles, differing viewpoints and mindsets that can make it difficult or impossible for some people to relate well to each other.

Misunderstandings are all too prevalent.

In his book, “Keep Your Love On”, Danny Silk identifies many of the dynamics that cause relationship problems.

With chapters like:

Powerful People, Powerful Relationships

Turn Your Love On

The Battle Between Fear and Love

Building Healthy Relationships

Communication: Exchanging the Truth Inside

Communicating in Conflict

and

Did You Learn to Love?

plus many more

You will learn about connection, communication and boundaries.

One thing we have to realize is that the goal of a relationship is either connection or disconnection.

We get to decide a lot of things. You’ve probably heard it said that love is a decision. We must practice unconditional acceptance and unconditional love. We learn not to control the other person while at the same time, we don’t accept their negative behavior.

We tell them, “No matter what you do, I am going to pursue the goal of connection with you.”

Danny observes that people who feel powerless will try to gain power by manipulating or controlling those around them.

All through the book, he presents scenarios that happen as people attempt to get their needs met by others instead of keeping the attitude that they should be powerful people who are here to help others. “A powerful person’s choice to love will stand no matter what the other person says or does.”

Another principle we all need to internalize is that the purpose of communication is to understand the other, not convince the other to agree with you.

These principles help us to realize that we are not at odds with each other, but we are on the same team.

1. The goal of a relationship is connection.

2. The purpose of communication is to understand each other, not convince the other to agree with us.

Danny has this to say about setting Boundaries:

“If you don’t prioritize your relationship with God, then your God Spot will end up with a human being in it.”

“Keeping God in your God Spot keeps you connected to the Holy Spirit’s incredible resources of wisdom and understanding to define your relational priorities and boundaries. He’s going to show you who you’re supposed to be, with whom you are supposed to be connecting, and how to build and protect those connections. He’s also the Spirit of power, love and self-control who enables you to follow through on your “yes” to these relationships.”

I have been putting many of these principles into practice since reading this book. I am reading it again to get it down deeper into my heart.

I feel that it has really helped me to improve my relationship and communication skills.

I feel so strongly about it that I have bought three more copies of this book, and I want to give these away to three of my readers. This giveaway will end November 28, 2014, the day after Thanksgiving.

How to win the giveaway:

Just leave a comment answering this question:

1. How do you keep your love light burning when your spouse is acting unloving?

Or this question:

2. Do you think a wife should confront her husband when his behavior is hurting his relationships?

I will read the comments, but I will just number the comments and choose a random number to give the books to. Please leave your email address so I can get a hold of the winners.

I wrote a similar post about marriage here based on things I gleaned from this book, KYLO.

Please read this post to get some more insights into ways to improve your marriage relationship.

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The Giveaway is now closed. The winners are Nikki Landis and Kathleen Carroll! Congratulations to the winners. I pray that their lives and relationships will be extremely blessed by the principles in this book. I know that I have been changed by reading it.

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A Bully, an Icy Creek, and a Big Giveaway from Elisha Press

A bully, an icy creek, and a big giveaway from Elisha Press

Elisha Press, a publisher of Christian novels particularly suitable for homeschool families, is launching a new title this week. Julie: the Redemption of the Backyard Bully is an all-new spinoff on The Reunion by Rachael McIntire. Both books are recommended as read-aloud material for the whole family. Solo readers of Julie should be twelve or older.

Fans of The Reunion may remember Julie Greene, the Gladstones’ troublesome neighbor who almost drowned in the creek. This new novel – longer and illustrated – tells Julie’s story before and after that incident, through the now-aging eyes of “Grandma” Greene. How can a sullen bully learn to be a selfless friend? How can a jealous young lady learn to be grateful and contented no matter what life brings? What does it mean to follow Jesus in the practical work and play of daily life? All this and more is waiting for you within the pages of Julie.

Author Rachael McIntire says that many elements of Julie are based on incidents from her own life. Growing up in the 1960’s, she experienced firsthand the challenges of that tumultuous time. Though the sixties are now long gone, the principles of God remain the same eternally. It is her hope that some of these principles may penetrate young hearts and minds through the story of the backyard bully and her redemption.

As part of their launch event, Elisha Press is giving away one autographed copy of Julie every day this week. By entering once, you’ll have a chance to win each time. This is a 183-page softcover book with 19 black-and-white illustrations like the example shown here.

The sooner you enter the giveaway, the better chance you have to win – so don’t wait! Click here and put in your email address to sign up.

Huge Giveaway from Knowledge Quest

Here is a huge giveaway of some amazing products. You don’t want to miss out on this.

It is at Some Call It Natural

It includes all of this! Yes, I’m serious!

A Child’s Geography Volume 3 with Wonders of Old Timeline Book ($59.90)
NotebookingPages.com Treasury Membership ($99.95)
Philosophy Adventure Physical set ($89.95)
Romans, Reformers, Revolutionaries Intro Pack from Diana Waring ($64.95)
Writeshop Primary Level (winners choice of A, B, or C) plus Activity Pack plus You Can Write A Story ($51.85)
Raising Real Men prize package ($100) Raising Real Men Book, My Beloved and My Friend Book, A Cry From Egypt Book, Boot Camp 9-12, Hero Tales Complete set
A Journey Through Learning $50 Gift Certificate
3 Months A+ Tutorsoft ($49.95)
Lilla Rose (2 Flexi Clips) ($32.00)
See The Light (2 DVDs) ($30)
King Alfred’s English and Baktar (Laurie White) ($25)

Don’t miss out on this chance to enter to win all of these great resources.

Giveaway of YA Christian novel: The Sparrow Found a House

Are you looking for a good book for your teenager that is interesting and relevant, yet teaches good morals and values?

Elisha Press is running a “blitz giveaway” of some signed softcover books. Five copies of “The Sparrow Found A House,” autographed by author Jason McIntire, will be given away on Saturday night. You can enter with just your email address here: http://elishapress.com/blog/sept-2013-giveaway?referrer=penney .

“The Sparrow Found A House” is a Christian novel targeted toward young adults, but advertised to be suitable for all ages. The author is a 2005 homeschool graduate, and homeschooling plays a major role in the story. Here’s the synopsis from the back of the book:

Fifteen-year-old Jessie Rivera is living every teenager’s nightmare. Her widowed mom has married a man who wears his heavy Christian values like his sergeant’s stripes – on both sleeves.

Glenn Sparrow is persistent, immovable, and not afraid to be firm. Worse than that, he’s loving, kind – even fun – and he has Chris, Moe, and Katie completely won over.

But Jessie is determined that she won’t be won over, or give up her “freedom” without a fight. She knows what she wants, and it isn’t what they’ve got.

Or is it?

Reviewers have used phrases such as “realistic,” “true to life,” “believable,” and “hard-hitting but understandable” to describe The Sparrow Found A House. All seem to agree that it’s a little different from most Christian fiction.

Be sure to get your entry in soon, as the giveaway ends at 8PM Central on Saturday: http://elishapress.com/blog/sept-2013-giveaway?referrer=penney .

On their website, you can read the story online for free! I just did, and I really liked this story. It takes you through the process of a family becoming a godly, loving family, as they leave behind the ways of the world. They change step by step, and one of those steps is to start homeschooling their children. Many realistic life situations happen to them as they struggle to make this transition. They encounter turbulence from without and within their family. They face opposition to their efforts, but they continue to pray and ask God for strength and wisdom, and He takes them from glory to glory.

It is a very good story.

I still really like books I can hold in my hand, so I would like to buy the softcover book. I would like for my kids to read the story, and they would be more likely to read it if we have a physical copy of it. I may just read the story to all of them. It’s that good!

You can also get free digital copies of the story at their website here.

Giveaway! Two Tickets to the First Ultimate Creation Expo!

UPDATE: We have our winners!!! Kristi Davis and Amy Shute won the tickets to the Ultimate Creation Expo. Congratulations, Kristi and Amy! I know you’ll love these teachings. Thank you for entering my first giveaway! You should be receiving your tickets in your email soon.

The Expo will begin on Jan. 23 and go until Jan. 26. The times will be 11 AM and 2:00 PM ET on those days.

I hope to see you there!

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